Hi! My name is Samantha & I am not perfect. SHOCK! I know! It is hard for me to come to that realization, too. But, man, there is such freedom in that knowledge. I am not perfect, I don’t have to be, & IT IS OK!
With today’s social media, the Kardashian #perfection, & everything we see in the media, it is easy to try to strive for perfection in every area of our lives – our hair, our makeup, our education, our finances, our homes, our mom skills, our workout routines, and even our cooking. Well, let’s set this straight – YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT – YOU ALREADY ARE!
Our picture of perfection is skewed. Your imperfection is what makes you perfect. I know some days it doesn’t feel like it, but I just wanted to remind you. You are OK just the way you are. You are beautiful, smart, handsome, enough, whatever it is that you need today.
I am very busy – like, extremely busy. Like forget to use the bathroom busy. Most of the time it is my fault because I don’t know how to say NO! I have a full time job at the local University (complete with being a board member on our state association, several committees, etc.), am trying to maintain my relationships with my husband, my family, and my friends. I teach a freshman college course on the side. I also have a second summer job gig that I do helping clean condos. On top of all that, I am currently working on a doctorate program & am in the dissertation phase. I also have to keep up the housework with this 1500 square foot townhouse that somehow seems to feel like 15 people live in it at times. I don’t know how mom’s do it, but here is someone without kids saying WAY TO GO! I can barely keep up! This is why this blog has suffered so much & it is my goal to do way better in the next coming months.
There are days where I feel pretty good about myself (see the picture above from today). Then, there are days where my hair is dirty and filled with dry shampoo, I’m embarrassed to tell anyone the last time I showered, I’m sleepy, I’m lethargic, I don’t work out (most days), and all I want to do is eat a tub of ice cream watching Grey’s Anatomy. Those days seem to be coming more often as I near my 32nd year of living. I am not always nice to my husband. I am not the nicest at my job sometimes. My relationships lately seem to be a lot of empty “Let’s get together & catch up” & “I’m sorry, I forgot to respond to your text messages”.
This past week, though, I had an experience that reminded me that IT IS OK! I came home from a long day at work & knew I needed to cook my husband dinner. I am trying to do better about us not eating out. I had not been to the grocery store in over a week. I was home around 6 & my husband had to be at work at 9. I needed something quick. I decided I would throw something together. I happened to have some thin chicken breasts in the fridge that was borderline in there for too long from where I wanted to make stuffed chicken breasts but never did.
I took those suckers out, put them in a glass baking dish with some Sweet Baby Ray’s BBQ sauce, & threw them in the oven at 400 degrees, trying to cook them quickly. I also had a box of quick Brown Rice/Quinoa mix, which I love! It only took 20 minutes to cook – bring the water & rice/quinoa mix to a boil, add seasoning pouch contents, & let cook covered. I also threw some rinsed spinach leaves in the mix to make it more like a rice/spinach pilaf. I flipped the chicken breasts halfway through the 20 minutes & added more BBQ sauce. THANK GOD FOR SISTER SCHUBERT’S YEAST ROLLS – in the oven so quick with a little dab of butter. In about half an hour, I had a pretty good dinner. To be honest, the spinach/rice/quinoa was kind of weird together but my husband went back for seconds so he must have liked it. He laughed when I took a picture of it because he said it wasn’t my typical Instagram food photo. I told him I wanted to show everyone that it’s OK for your dishes to not be INSTAGRAM PERFECTION.
This experience reminded me that even when you aren’t perfect & you throw something together, IT IS ALL OK! There’s nothing wrong with striving to be better, but we have to let ourselves off the hook sometimes. It is PERFECT to be IMPERFECT. May we never forget that.
What are your favorite dishes to throw together & what staples do you keep in the kitchen so you can?